Don’t Tell Me What To Do!

Have you ever noticed how much your stubborn sinful pride gets in the way of your relationships with others? I know you’ve done it, you’ve looked at your parent or your friends, or even your significant other and told them, ‘you can’t tell me what to do!” Worst thing is how often we tell that to God. We have no problems with what Jesus did for our sins on the cross, but when it comes to thinking of Jesus as king we skirt the issue of, “I know what the bible says, but I’m going to do this anyway.” We allow our pride to stand in the way of those telling us when we’ve done wrong. We lash out and get angry with those who are trying to help us get back on a good course. The worst part about our pride is it doesn’t matter who’s telling us, or what they’re telling us, or even the validity of their proof, we turn a blind eye, and pretend like what they said doesn’t actually apply to us. In some instances we return their concern or authority back on them as anger and frustration.

In all reality our anger should really be said, ‘How dare you point out the error of my ways, I know I’m doing wrong, I don’t need anyone to remind me how sinful I am.’ We don’t want to see beyond our own selfish sin, and acknowledge the truth, that we are in fact, wrong. We want to be left alone in our own sin, and allowed to walk a path, no matter how dark or self-destructive it may be. We cannot expect things to go well if we walk up to the wet paint sign and touch the paint just because we want to. Or worse when someone tells us not to stick our finger in a light socket but we do it anyway. As Christians we are told to stand up and rebuke those we see in active sin. Likewise we are told to be slow to speak and swift to hear. How many people day complain about the life they are in? Likewise how many of those people are in their predicament due to their own fault?

In the last few years I’ve really moved into a position of ‘friendly counseling’. People come to me fairly often with their worries, concerns, shortcomings, and hardships, and sadly most of the time, their situation could have been avoided by usually 2 or less decisions. Our actions have consequences and while we enjoy the act we are engaged in, whatever it may be, the consequences are usually not nearly as fun. We enjoy pigging out on all that really expensive food and wine, but when the bill comes, the sum of our choices becomes very real. Our sin is kind of like that shopping spree we go on, but we want to throw away the credit card bill when it comes in.

“If we want to have a different life, you will have to be different.” (Ass. Pastor Glen Newsom) Jesus spoke to us in parables so we would often find ourselves in the midsts of those stories. We will learn a lesson from watching or hearing about others actions better then someone flat out telling us what not to do. If we are going to stand and affirm we are Christians, we must know that our sin we hide in our private rooms is only private till it’s not. Sin has a way of coming out in the open, and even if those around us don’t know about it, God does. Because we live in perpetual sin we are always trying to make a recompense for it. We will always wrong another, offend someone, or worse, wrong or offend God. When we are caught in our sinful ways we must be an adult and stop throwing childish tantrums. We must stand tall and ask for forgiveness. We are big boys, and big girls, and we should be able to admit when we are wrong. When we are following a bad path we need to be able to remove ourselves from the sin that drew us down that path, and appreciate that someone is taking the time to give us the preverbal boot in the rear end, or slap upside the head.

Our time is short in this world, and we never know when the end comes. Do we want to live our last days angry with someone or estranged from loved ones? The next time you start to tell someone off for bringing up your faults have some sense of decorum and find that little piece of humility in your heart. We cannot go through life with a hardened heart expecting blessings if we are incapable of giving or receiving them. We cannot use people for our own personal gain, ie. Someone’s kindness or generosity, because we if not careful fall into selfishness, pride, or gluttony. This world is to short to take our friends or family for granted. I suppose when you come to death as many times as I have, you grow to have a deep appreciation for people. I try not to take my friends or family for granted. Even though I would listen to what people had to say I became very adept at using logic and reason to argue against someone’s advice or opinion. I wouldn’t truly give what they were suggesting a chance, and sadly I’ve done a lot of damage to relationships by my incessant desire to be correct. My own selfish pride got in the way of thinking outside the box. I daresay this may have damaged my marriage as well. Sadly I wouldn’t learn my lesson till it was too late. I don’t believe that one thing is what pushed her into the arms of another man because largely I was very supportive and loving, and despite everything that’s happened I still am. That being said, we all have our faults, and we all should work on fixing what we can, while we can. Tomorrow may or may not come, all we can truly do is decide what and how we are going to live our lives in the moment. The bill however, will always come due.